Nine Month Online Program
April - December, 2020 (Registration closed.)
We have an ever-changing relationship with our bodies for a lifetime.
Healing isn’t linear and it’s not a one-shot deal. It is a continual unravelling. And an unlearning of patterns that have been used to help you survive.
This course is an invitation to continue your process. In a manner that is more of a slow and steady trickle than a fire hose.
This is The Body Trust Project: A School for Unlearning.
And we are going to keep this really simple.
Your body is not a project or a problem to be solved. However, unlearning the lies we have been taught about bodies is, honestly, a bit of a project. It takes persistence, a lot of good info, ongoing support, and practice.
You can deeply reckon with the Body Project you inherited. Body Trust is a radial reclamation of what was always meant to be yours. Body Trust is repair work.
Learned your body was a problem when you were a kid and have been trying to feel better about it ever since.
Have been hustling in response to the culture’s limited ideas about attractiveness and desirability.
Want to feel like you can put dieting, food restriction & restraint and binge eating down.
Have been dieting, strategizing, scheming and hoping for longer than you wish was true.
Are trying to unlearn diet culture and body blame.
Feel out of alignment in regards to how you feel about your body versus the body acceptance you have for others in the world.
Take on anti-diet programs because you might lose weight, even though deep down inside you know that is not what this is all about.
We want you to unlearn the body project you were taught (without your consent), and swap it for the BODY TRUST PROJECT.
We will meet together once a month for 90 minutes of unlearning and sharing.
We will send you curated resource lists for unlearning diet culture and sinking your roots into
Body Trust, as well as love notes (in email form) to remind you of the process.
It’s pretty simple. 9 months of content for $699 (payment plans available)
Unlearning diet culture and oppressive ideas about your body is for you just as it is for everyone else.
There is not a different set of rules for you.
It may be true that your concern and management of your body, appearance, size, weight, shape, or fitness has been the center of your inner world for longer than you ever wanted or dreamt was possible. Most folks take it on before the age of 10. Social constructs of health, size, beauty, race, gender, age and ability all have a stake in how free, connected and embodied you get to be. They have impacted how whole you feel and how much of you is known, seen, held and supported. The coping and rituals that have arisen from the body project may have protected you or made living in a culture of domination more manageable. It has likely been the way you have tried to mitigate weight stigma.
We have to unravel, unlearn, and allow ourselves to become different in order to
have a different experience. In order to heal. And to set our sights on freedom.
You are not late. You couldn’t have already done this. We are awakening to new paradigms together. And including ourselves in our desire for change in the world is not always our first instinct.
Self-loathing and shame don’t work as motivators.They don’t create lasting or meaningful change.
It is, in fact, our own unraveling and unlearning that changes us. It unburies us. It helps us believe in our own story again. Our stories are hardwired to the truth.
We know the world around you may not be awake to this body-inclusive, anti-diet paradigm. Your loved ones don’t get it and maybe aren’t willing to hold your story. They don’t understand your path and can’t support your way out. Leaving diet culture behind isn’t always easy to explain, especially when you are still trying to figure it out for yourself and don’t quite have the language to talk about it. And yet, maybe it hasn’t felt right to go it alone either.
Our healing work helps us create the new world we desire for others. We collectively have a tremendous amount to revise, reclaim, heal, repair, speak and hear in order for all bodies to be free.
We see you. You want body liberation for everyone else. We just want you to include yourself too.
So again..The Body TrustⓇ Project: A Nine-Month School for Unlearning
How does this work?
We will gather online once a month for 90 minutes of unlearning and sharing. We will send you a curated list of resources for unlearning diet culture and sinking your roots into Body Trust, and love notes (in email form) to remind you of the process.
Simple is sometimes exactly what we need to make something matter. Simple makes learning possible.
So what do you get?
Together we will geek out on our favorite evocative material, evolving ideas, and lessons for getting free.
So, what are the monthly topics going to be?
Entering the Wilderness
Many of us move around the world like floating heads, pretty disconnected from the body. The process of reclaiming Body Trust can feel like entering the wilderness. We are leaning into our vulnerability to brave unchartered territory and honor how we lost trust in our bodies in the first place. We will explore theories of embodiment and how we begin to reclaim our body stories.
Self-care as a Form of Divestment
What if the type of care we are advocating for isn’t a form of self-care but rather a form of DIVESTMENT? Divesting from diet culture, fatphobia, and healthism. Divesting from shame and perfectionism. Divesting from white supremacy. Divesting from beauty. We want to geek out on this concept we learned from our beloved friend and mentor Desiree Adaway.
Reckoning with Your Identity as an Eater
Claiming your identity as an eater can be fraught with fear, shame or confusion. We believe Body Trust is a birthright, and somewhere along the way this trust is disrupted. When this happens we often begin to navigate the world of food and eating with a dieting mind. Before we can reclaim Body Trust, there is a reckoning. We reckon with the lies we’ve been told, how we’ve been harmed. We reckon with hunger and fullness...with desire and pleasure. Until we come to terms with our identity as an eater, it’s hard to experiment and take risks with our eating.
Ending the Hustle
Diet culture teaches people to approach the body and food with rigidity and perfectionism. The way society talks about nutrition and health, you’d think one meal or day of eating has the power to heal or kill you. Starting with unrealistic expectations and then being hard on yourself when you can’t pull it off is how the weight loss and cosmetic fitness industries make money off of your shame. We want to help you end the hustle. Because if we’re really honest with ourselves, are we, as a society, hustling for “health” or are we hustling for worthiness?
What Does Grief Have to Do With It?
The path to reclaiming our bodies and increasing resilience to shame and stigma is one permeated by grief and letting go. We grieve the illusion of control, the thin ideal, and the time wasted on a failed paradigm that’s brought us so much pain. We allow for grief over and over again, knowing that without it, we may only move forward on shaky ground.
Boundaries Don’t Have to Suck
The ways we learn to cope with food and leave our bodies has been about learning to survive because our boundaries, our bodies, and our own knowing has not often been respected. We need to find a way to inhabit our own being that can be protected in new ways. Reconnecting with your needs and boundaries is a Core Element of a Body Trust Practice. We will work to celebrate our yes’s and honor our no’s. In her book Pleasure Activism, adrienne maree brown writes, “Your strong and solid no makes way for your deep, authentic yes...by practicing saying no, you will cultivate a yes that is rooted in having agency, having power, and having respect for your boundaries.” Let’s say yes to all of this!
Pleasure as a Measure of Freedom
What makes you feel good? What turns you on? How often do you r e a l l y like what you eat? Access to pleasure is often tethered to the question “how much is too much?” It’s common for people’s complicated relationship with food to come from a disrupted relationship with desire. Rediscovering, embodying, and allowing for pleasure is an act of resistance in a culture that has made indulgence a “dirty word”. Pleasure takes up space and says I’m here. Let’s explore how pleasure, in the absence of shame and guilt, heals.
Many of us grow up experiencing the joy of active play, sport, dance and other ways of moving our bodies, only to have these activities co-opted by diet culture later in life. We begin to view our bodies as machines that must be tightly controlled, believing in the calories in vs. out equation we’ve all been sold, and seeing physical activity as a way to compensate for our food intake. Movement can foster attunement by providing opportunities to get below the neck and experience the body from the inside out.
Making Your Healing Bigger Than You
This movement needs all of you, not just the part of you that wants freedom for everyone else. As Sonya Renee Taylor recently reminded us, our liberation is bound together. When we include ourselves in the process towards body liberation, we contribute to the movement. When we ground our healing in our story we increase our agency and our voice. Once we’ve developed deeper roots in our Body Trust Practice, it becomes easier to speak up and advocate for a body compassionate and weight-inclusive world. And when we speak for a cause, our commitment to the cause strengthens. We’ll talk about ways to continue with this work, and to lend your voice to radical liberation for all.
So...what do you think?
This will be our work together.
As your un-teachers, we would love to support you with the tools to align your most loving, most equitable, most understanding and fiercest self in Body TrustⓇ. We will be unlearning alongside you.
Let’s be clear. This program WILL NOT include:
Another Facebook group.
A big commitment you can’t sustain.
(For those of you wanting extra support during your unlearning process, we have an amazing community of Body Trust providers for you to choose from for 1:1 support.)
$699 (PAYMENT PLANS AVAILABLE)
Program started on April 14th, and registration has closed.
Calls are on the 2nd Tuesday of every month from 5 to 6:30 p.m. Pacific time (April to December).
All calls will be recorded and available to listen to (or re-listen to) on your own time.
Equity pricing is available for this program up until 3 days before the start date (Deadline: April 11th).
You can read more here.