“Dear Dana and Hilary,
I love your work because it puts so much of what the culture says about body image for women on its head. I am a nurse/health coach at a hospital system in Bend Oregon and we work off of biometrics with clients. Your website and articles helps me nudge them in new directions and most particularly in breaking the cycle of internal violence and creating an empathic space for them to see and hold themselves.
You have inspired me to speak my truth and to continue to question norms with my clients again and again. This is purely a letter to let you know that you have inspired me and with that countless clients whose needs for self-love are beginning to be met. I refer them to your website and classes frequently.” – CM
“I came to Be Nourished because it was obvious that my old way of doing things wasn’t working. Although I had quit dieting about two years before and tried to focus on a way of living that was more body positive, it wasn’t working. I felt like I needed support.
Much of my weight gain and general lack of health came from years of depression and eating to stuff my feelings. Because of the work I had done before, I was aware of this, but felt completely incapable of doing anything about it! One of the things that surprised me about the process was just how little hope I had in ever being able to change. And that kept coming back during the class – I had to deal with it over and over again.
One thing that I would say to someone who is just starting is that it isn’t easy. You’ll need to be patient. Don’t come into No More Weighting like we often do with diets – excited, sure that this is going to be the magic bullet and (even though NMW doesn’t focus on weight loss) hoping we’ll be thin in no time. Please don’t be discouraged by my saying this. The class is well worth it, but it can be difficult and changes don’t happen overnight, certainly not during a six week course. The process is your own, and yes, you may gain weight. I did, but once I got the hang of things, it started coming off again. So don’t panic. Stick with your process and be gentle with yourself.
The one phrase I keep repeating to myself over and over again is, “weight-neutral body care.” I want to take good care of my body – this poor body that I’ve been abusing for 45 years, when she’s been so faithful and strong. I’m learning to focus on my physical and mental health and to make small changes I feel good about: switching out ice cream for fruit when my sweet tooth is raging, and going back to dancing and hiking instead of trying to make myself go to a gym. It’s amazing how just one small victory can make me feel so powerful. Focusing on those positive changes keeps me from giving up.
I like this quote from The Neverending Story, by Michael Ende (edited for length):
“I did everything wrong,” he said. “I misunderstood everything…”
Dame Eyola gave him a long look. “No,” she said. “I don’t believe so. You went the way of wishes, and that is never straight. You went the long way around, but that was your way.”
After a short silence she added: “But every way that leads there is the right one.” -DB
“Hi Dana & Hilary, I’d really like to thank you guys. I accidentally stumbled across your website in October, the day before one of your no more weighting courses was going to start. On a whim, I signed up for it, which now I realize had to be fate or some kind of kismet. You guys won’t ever know how badly I needed to hear everything your course had to say, or how much it has changed my entire life. I don’t feel that I’m somehow wrong anymore, or that I’m in a body that I need to be at war with. And now that I’m learning to be free of that war, I am trying to spread the word to everyone, because I can finally see that there’s no wrong way to have a body. Thank you a million times over, I never would have been free without you guys!” -JK
“Revolutionary work…so true. I am much more aware of the self talk that gets the cycle going in myself, and have found that I am able to step back and realize that I don’t have to join in, and don’t have to allow it to ruin my day. I do want to change the world…for everyone. Thank you for this course, and for the work you are doing!!” -MA
“I thought I would have lost weight. I thought I would be a different person. I thought that it would be easy. All that in 6 weeks. But instead it is much better.
I have no clue what my weight is.
I am aware of my body.
I have a glimpse of what it means to be hungry and full.
I am a beautiful person.
Just as I am.
It is ok to take up space.
I am on a journey.
Thanks for the nudge!” -KR
“Thank you so much! This is the most amazing course and the hardest…. I’m on the path, it will take along time, but I feel like I am just beginning to come home. You two women are so inspiring.” -AS
“The 5 Core Competencies opened up my eyes to how pervasive/invasive my dieting mind is on all areas of my life. I liked the metaphor of this program as a Practice such as learning an instrument. I choose to be “learning the cello” – it has a curvaceous shape, is grounded, requires the player to use their whole body to play, and the legs to be open — this can be both vulnerable and powerful! Today I will pause and Respect my Body” -M
“This group allows you to move at your own pace and discover yourself on your own. It’s not scary and doesn’t feel overwhelming or forced. It’s a very natural progression to recovery, discovery and self-compassion/love. I strongly recommend this group to women of all ages, shapes and sizes, whether it be for disordered eating or just to get more in touch with yourself. It’s definitely worth it and could be beneficial for all.” -Anonymous
“This is, for me, the best program out there. It literally saved me from the destruction of myself and gave me freedom. I am a happy person again.” – AS
“I just wanted to let you know I have been thinking a lot lately about how grateful I am for Be Nourished. I can’t tell you how much the work I have done with you has helped me to heal my relationship with my body and with food for the long-term. It kind of sucked for a while, but I am finally seeing the “fruits of my labor” in how I eat food, think about my body, and take better care of myself overall. I revert to my old behaviors sometimes, but I don’t beat myself up as much anymore. I have been losing some weight slowly, but feel like the changes in my attitudes and behaviors are so much more valuable for the long run, than any weight I gain or lose. So thanks. I wanted to encourage you to keep doing the work you are doing. You have made a difference in my life.” – TK
“I loved the group! I came away with some valuable tools. I look forward to working with you all in the future. Thanks again for being here!” – MZ
“This group has been informative, supportive, and very helpful. I feel like I’m reconnected to myself and ready to better care for myself. Thank you for all you’ve offered.” – NT
“Be Nourished is a warm and inviting place. The program has forever changed the way I look at food and my life.” – AW
“I am so thankful for the Body Trust Wellness program. To have found a space with women who understand, listen, and share their struggles has been invaluable.” ~L.A.V
“Out of all of my self-care endeavors throughout my life, this workshop has been the most rewarding.” – Anonymous
“Going through Body Trust Wellness has transformed my relationship with food, my body, and myself. I would recommend it to anyone who is tired of how things are now and want things to change for the good in the future.” KZ
“Dana & Hilary are skilled facilitators who can work with participants at all different levels, experiences, etc. They can manage someone like me who’s been doing therapy & group work for years right along side someone who’s exploring these issues for the first time.” – Anonymous
“I appreciate all of your support with unlearning the diet mentality and that there’s nothing wrong with my body… learning self-care. I love you gals!” S.V.
“Be Nourished creates a safe environment for me and others to explore the steps toward self-acceptance. Thank you!” -Anonymous
“Be Nourished is a place where you can be authentic, and benefit from connecting with individuals who share the journey of awakening to greater mindfulness.” – B.M.
“This group has been wonderful. I am eternally grateful for this place to come every Tuesday night.” – Anonymous
“Signing and showing up to this group at all felt pretty daring for me. Then we wrote our first permission slips to ourselves, learned about empathic listening, and treaded into the thought-provoking exercises in the company of others. At some point I realized weren’t just learning about vulnerability and shame resilience; in small and monumental ways, we were being vulnerable, together, and building courage to do it beyond the walls of Be Nourished in the everyday moments of our lives.” – Anonymous
“As a massage therapist for the last 14 years, I’ve taken a lot of continuing education. Most of those seminars gave me very specific tools and methods for helping very specific challenges. Helpful, for sure, but The Embodied Practitioner seminar was different. Rather than providing step by step instructions on how to heal this or fix that, Dana and Hilary thoughtfully pieced together a holistic experience that presented well rounded concepts to explore and opportunities to unearth fresh perspective. In the two and a half days we spent with them, it was obvious just how carefully and thoughtfully they chose the ideas and information that they laid out in front of us. They not only were very purposeful in choosing the physical space at Breitenbush for its calming and healing effects, but their choice to intentionally set a safe space in every other way possible created a powerful and long lasting impact. Dana and Hilary and their well balanced presentation of this seminar gave me what other seminars never have – freedom, permission and perspective. Freedom to explore and decide what is true for me and my body. Permission to let go of having to have the “right answer”. And perspective to understand keeping one’s eyes continually open in awareness is always better than shutting them tightly in fear.” -KP
“This was exactly what I needed: A safe place to explore my own insecurities, doubts, and challenges as a practitioner in the field of eating disorders. I have more to give my clients as a result.” – Anonymous
“Thank you. The work that you are doing made a huge difference for the community, the culture, each person.” -LA
“Expect to be vulnerable and to learn even more than you though you could. :)” -Anonymous
“This should be called the “emboldened practitioner” or the “empowered practitioner” in addition to “embodied”. I leave feeling invigorated and validated.” -Anonymous
“Incredible! Such a powerful day being in a safe place with my body. Thank you.” -TD
“Dana and Hilary are both highly affirming and encouraging therapists as they speak hope into suffering with authenticity and empowerment.” -Anonymous
“Eye opening experience to think deeply about how I experience my own body.” – Anonymous
“Kind, wise teaching. Thank you!” – Anonymous
“Dana & Hilary are gifted individually and collectively. Their connectedness and honesty allow their workshops to be heard and helpful.” – Anonymous
“Hilary and Dana have made this course beneficial regardless of where you are in your journey. One could probably take the same course over and over again and notice something new every time.” – S.P.
“They are brave pioneers who show up with their whole selves to the training, which invites others to do the same.” – Anonymous
“I had the absolute privilege of participating in Be Nourished’s Embodied Practitioner training for our staff at Opal: Food+Body Wisdom. Hilary and Dana do an excellent job of immediately creating a safe environment for practitioners to slow down and tune into their body, allowing for increased self-awareness. Their authenticity and humility in combination with their experience and giftedness provided a day-long experience of learning and connection both to our own selves and connection to each other. I would highly recommend therapists give themselves the gift of this training.” – Kara Bazzi, LMFT, CEDS, Clinical Director at Opal: Food+Body Wisdom
“Thought provoking, challenging, re-imagining of weight, food and health.” – John Holtzapple, MD
“The training and information was invaluable and will definitely change my practice… Starting tomorrow!” – L.L. ND
“This is revolutionary subject matter that might just save our next generation.” – Anonymous
“Every clinician, medical practitioner and physical education teacher working with women or girls should take this training – even if they think it is not pertinent to their practice.” -Anonymous
“This has been the most insightful and powerful training I have attended in my decade-long career. The work being done with HAES is exceptionally important and I cannot imagine going back to what I was doing before this” -AF
“Hilary & Dana provided a wealth of information and tools which will enrich my clinical practice, and did so in the spirit of warmth and compassion. Thank you.” – Anonymous
“This was a great lesson for me in recognizing the difference of “accepting” and “being passive”. You are doing great work and it is so exciting! Thanks!” -Anonymous
“Very eye opening to a “body positive” outlook. I will be looking for ways to add this to my everyday interactions in both my personal and professional areas of life.” – Anonymous
“As a student and beginning professional I am so lucky and fortunate to be starting out on this path. I wish this training were a requirement for all RDs and other health professionals” -CMF
“Outstanding, timely, and helpful guidance for providers of all kinds.” –RA
“I like the combo of quality research filtering & your practical experience. I would love to participate in an advanced training to clinicians/practitioners using HAES paradigm currently. Thank you – salve for the spirit!” – Anonymous
“I really appreciate being introduced to alternate (vs. mainstream) methods/philosophies that I can apply to my own practice. I’ve had a feeling for quite some time that I’ve been searching for another way to approach health and eating.” -Anonymous
“Very helpful training. All medical professionals should be required to take this! Also, very well-presented, enjoyable and thought-provoking!” J.C. ~counseling intern
“An invaluable experience. I will probably refer to my notes on a daily basis.” – Anonymous
“A refreshing and empowering approach to heal your relationship with self.” – Anonymous
“I think this was a very useful training for any practicing medical provider wanting to help patients create deeper, sustained change.” – Anonymous
“This is a practice that is applicable to nearly every profession and practice setting. I highly recommend being open to MI in your work.” – Anonymous
“This training was extremely valuable in learning how to actively listen and elicit change.” – Anonymous
“This was a great experience and has empowered me to become better and utilize my new MI skills.” – Anonymous
“Great experience. Learned and practiced a lot. Not only did I learn, it was fun too!.” –Anonymous
“By far the best continuing education I’ve done as an RD.” -AB
“Thank you for sharing your talent & ‘honing’ into your passion. It is very clear that you have found your niche and it is wonderful to receive education from someone with this skill/awareness.” – MV
“Excellent examples of challenging situations and responses. Questions were answered in a warm, encouraging tone which encouraged open sharing and allowed me to take risks in my questions.” -MI participant
“Dana is a dynamic and engaging speaker. She facilitates learning extremely well.” – MI participant
“Not only did I learn new skills, but I also learned what I’m doing well which gave me confidence to take the next step and practice new, more advanced skills.” –CF
“Motivational Interviewing should be integrated into all practice settings whether medical, psychological, etc. It is a patient centered approach allowing patients to guide their own care. How can this not be a better method of practice.” – Anonymous
“Fantastic training. Useful, relevant, compassionate and applicable.” – RA
“Thank you for providing me/us with so many meaningful tools to help people succeed and make change. I’m so excited to implement!!” – Anonymous
“Dana brought herself, her passion, and her incredible skills to this workshop. The rich conversation, the hands-on practice opportunities, and giving freely and respectfully of her experience and knowledge. This was a WOW workshop for me!” – Anonymous
“The trainer (Dana) embodied the model in a way that allowed her to demonstrate its components in her speech, her examples, and her behaviors. It was a very full, rich, informative, and energizing workshop.” – Anonymous
“Loved the hands-on approach. I liked the small group being in a casual relaxed environment where we were able to work together to try the new skills we were learning. This was the best conference I’ve ever been to!” -Anonymous
“Dana is a masterful trainer. Allowed me to absorb material and practice skills, made space for thoughtful discussion in group. All of this helped connect the material for me and gain confidence about integrating it in my practice and life.” -Anonymous
“Dana provided information in a way that was engaging, stimulating, and left me looking forward to more. She embodied the spirit of what she was teaching. I feel blessed to have been here with her.” -Anonymous
“Useful and important skills presented by a very knowledgeable and compassionate teacher. I can walk out today and use this tomorrow at work. Job well done!” -Anonymous
“The whole training was wonderful. Dana was amazing and offered so much of it herself.” -Anonymous
“Thank you. This is a life changing exercise in a new lifestyle for me.” -Anonymous
“This is the most useful and powerful training I’ve attended in my 10+ years as a practitioner. I am ready to use this as a way to connect with others and support them! Thank you!” -Anonymous
“This training was so insightful and helpful! I’m looking forward to enjoying more positive interactions with my clients as I practice the role of facilitator and guide instead of trying to educate them at all costs.” ~Jessica Short, RD, LD, CDE
“Hilary and Dana presented at our Diversity conference and this is a great movement!! What would happen if we all loved our bodies!!? What a new concept!!!” – KL